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Shelly's avatar

So many great points with this, I’m just starting my journey after being unemployed and unable to find a job for nearly a year now. I figured it was the absolute perfect time to start if there ever was a perfect time! Thank you for writing this!!

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

It does sound like a good time! Lots of luck and success (and patience) to you!

Emma Espejo's avatar

Hey Alexis! Thank you for being so transparent and sharing all this, a more relatable and real tale of what creating a business is!

Reading you is always motivating and encouraging to keep going! Like now is not the end of the story, it's just part of the journey.

Thanks so much for sharing! :)

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

That’s very sweet, Emma! Thank you. I’m glad this post resonated with you. I sometimes feel like I’m all over the place with random topics for each post, so it’s nice to hear that I’ve reached you! ;)

Raksha Daryanani Thani's avatar

I could relate to the rejection and being clueless about certain things but still going ahead. I think that's the beauty of being your own boss: you can figure it out and one day you may look back at it all with pride :)

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

Yes, that's exactly right! And I agree, it's one of the best parts.

Marci Cornett's avatar

Oh these are great lessons, and even after 8 years of almost solopreneurship (I work with my husband), there are many of these I still struggle with. I also love your implicit lesson here, that what you start doing today might not be what you're doing 10 years from now... but it's all about getting started and keeping going. Super inspiring.

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

That's a great point! Sometimes I forget to pat myself on the back for that. haha. I think something I missed here is to celebrate all the wins! Regardless of how small they are. ;) Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

Marci Cornett's avatar

Oooh - that's a great lesson too!

Lee Bacon's avatar

Great insights here. I can't agree more with #1. There are so many times when I think, "If I'd have known how hard that was going to be, I never would've tried."

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

Thanks, Lee! Yes! That is the best one, and now every time I want to try/start something new, I sort of wish I still had that same naivete. But the wisdom is also a perk! ;)

Sara's avatar

So many gems here Alexis! I too have been on the solopreneur train on and off for about 15 years. Making time for yourself and connecting with others were two things I was terrible at - I thought if I just pushed myself harder, I could do it all alone! Oh dear - how wrong I was. I also look back at some of my earlier ventures and cringe but now I’m kinda proud that I was out there having a go. Ps I’m also a content marketer and copywriter 😀 ✌️

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

Thanks, Sara! And hello fellow content marketer and writer. ;) Do you freelance or work full time?

I agree, I’m also proud when I look back and realize that it all brought me to where I am now. What other types of business have you had/attempted? :)

Sara's avatar

I’m freelance at the moment. I was full time with an agency until about a year ago but my partner travels so much for work it became impossible with kids. So my first foray into my own thing was a blog / shop for style conscious pet owners 🐶😀I did street photography of people with their pets in London, reported on all the best pet friendly places like pubs, hotels etc and sold designer pet products. TBH I think I was too early with it (2011) - it’d probably work now! 🤷‍♀️

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

Ah, that sounds like a really cool blog/shop! When I had my brand, I used to do all the photography too, and also had a blog to help bring people to the site. Gotta be resourceful!

Noel Carlson's avatar

All great points. Sticking the bullet points on my mirror to ponder!

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

Oh that’s great! ❤️

The Midst's avatar

Alexis, this is great! And agree: Being naive is a superpower. :)

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

Thanks! Had a feeling you might relate. ;)