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Lindsey @ Not Normal's avatar

Your yellow orchids and playlist sounds like the perfect way to honor her. And as for the math- grief is weird! As long as it brings you some comfort, that’s all that matters.

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

I agree. 😊 Thanks for reading!

Joseph Davis's avatar

The humor is only morbid to those on the outside. When our brother died and was cremated, we joked with our sister-in-law that if she shook the urn could she hear any of the metal parts he had in his body from a decades old car accident. We laughed and enjoyed our inside family joke!

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

You’re right! It’s those little moments that bring you closer together as a family. I’m doing a little road trip with my 10 y.o. niece and bf this summer, and I told my niece I’d probably bring granny (in her urn) so we could take pictures with her. We both got a kick out of it, and now she keeps mentioning it.

jane A. martin's avatar

You have given grief a better, more fluid definition. Thank you. Well done.

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

And thank you for reading! Xxx

Cassie Wilkins's avatar

Oh my gosh, the dark humour of the family chat is so real, hey?! It's like a lifeline and a connection to your humanity in a shitty time, but also something that I'm quite happy keeping behind closed doors and not sharing with the world - at least for now! Sending you big hugs xxx

Alexis Mera Damen's avatar

It’s the only way to not spend the whole time crying! :-/ Hugs to you too! X