Love what you've done with this - revisiting and updating. So much good advice here, not much I'd quibble with - on 7, putting yourself first, for sure, but that does change with parenthood, my daughter comes first, and rightfully so. You don't need motherhood to fill that space, either - it can be another loved one, a project, a cause, something like that (I'm just thinking out loud too!)
38 - oh yes, 100%, excellent!
18 - getting older...yes and no. I meant to comment on your other piece on this. I'm totally with you on the mental side of it, the whole not giving a fuck and just doing what the hell you like, more or less, but - sorry to sound like an old grouch! - the physical downsides get more noticeable in those later 40s. I'm turning 50 this year and the creaks in the knee or the overactive prostate (sorry!) aren't fun. But there are great points to it.
One thing I've struggled with is resiliency, I let things get me down (I had a deeply frustrating - yet another - experience with local bureaucracy this morning and these things kill me, they're soul-destroying and I wish I could be snarky and not give a shit, but these people have the power to screw us over and I wish there were a better way of dealing with this crap from the mental side of it.
Anyway, Alexis, keep at it, you're doing great so far, keep revisiting and revising this list!
Thanks, Daniel! Yeah I guess you have a point about 18. My hip is getting a bit rickety. But still, getting older is better than the alternative. At least I think so!
Sorry about your frustrating experience this morning! Deep breaths. 🧘
Enjoyed this, Alexis. Saturdays on the sofa are just superb!
I had a brief crisis this morning about turning 40 soon so good timing too!
Glad I could help! It’s not so bad, promise. ;)
Love what you've done with this - revisiting and updating. So much good advice here, not much I'd quibble with - on 7, putting yourself first, for sure, but that does change with parenthood, my daughter comes first, and rightfully so. You don't need motherhood to fill that space, either - it can be another loved one, a project, a cause, something like that (I'm just thinking out loud too!)
38 - oh yes, 100%, excellent!
18 - getting older...yes and no. I meant to comment on your other piece on this. I'm totally with you on the mental side of it, the whole not giving a fuck and just doing what the hell you like, more or less, but - sorry to sound like an old grouch! - the physical downsides get more noticeable in those later 40s. I'm turning 50 this year and the creaks in the knee or the overactive prostate (sorry!) aren't fun. But there are great points to it.
One thing I've struggled with is resiliency, I let things get me down (I had a deeply frustrating - yet another - experience with local bureaucracy this morning and these things kill me, they're soul-destroying and I wish I could be snarky and not give a shit, but these people have the power to screw us over and I wish there were a better way of dealing with this crap from the mental side of it.
Anyway, Alexis, keep at it, you're doing great so far, keep revisiting and revising this list!
Thanks, Daniel! Yeah I guess you have a point about 18. My hip is getting a bit rickety. But still, getting older is better than the alternative. At least I think so!
Sorry about your frustrating experience this morning! Deep breaths. 🧘
I think I will make this list an annual thing!